… and it says that the state may not legally bar same-sex marriage.

It would seem that this will lead to California joining Massachusetts, currently the only US state where same-sex marriage is legal.

Also ahead on this front are Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire and my home state of New Jersey. These four states permit civil unions, which many view as a stepping stone to full marriage rights at some point in the future.

My cousin just posted a blog saying she has too much of the former, and too little of the latter.

We’re both in the exact same place that way.

And I find that the more I think, the less clear I am.

It’s so much easier, over the short haul, to lie to yourself.

But it adds up over time and makes your life a living hell.

So being honest with yourself, although difficult in the moment, is a lot more rewarding in the long run.

First, you have to admit it to yourself, whatever “it” is. Then you have to be able to say it out loud, and that makes it so much more real.

I had a fantastic conversation with my therapist this morning, and I was finally able to say “it” out loud.

My biggest fear in life is being alone.

That’s it. The biggest thing. My motivator in all things. And it has damaged (ruined?) relationships for me. It has hurt my career. It has made me, and those around me, suffer. If you’re one of the people I’ve hurt because I’m afraid of being rejected and abandoned, I’m sorry about that.

All because I’m afraid of being alone.

Quite possibly my favorite line on a tv show, ever … was uttered by Marc, Wilhelmina’s over-the-top assistant during last week’s episode of Ugly Betty.

I can identify with his concern:

I’m too pretty for prison. They’ll pass me around like the collection plate at a Catholic church.